People talk. A lot. And they think what they say is important, too, as if they have some secret knowledge or insight which is simply unavailable to the rest of us mere mortals. They’ll spread their negative beliefs to anyone who will listen.
Most of the time it is easier to let people believe what they want to believe because even if you try to convince them otherwise, they aren’t going to change their minds, especially if its a negative belief about another person.
Humans are notoriously stubborn and myopic and far more of us fall victim to the Dunning-Kruger Effect than will ever be self-aware enough to realize it, let alone admit it. It is very difficult to get people to change their minds about others. People are bad at changing, which is why bias is so powerful and pervading in us.
But it’s okay if people talk. It’s okay if they talk about you, because you don’t have to listen. One of the great joys of freedom is that we can make our own choices and we do not have to associate with people who are toxic to our way of life.
And believe me, they will talk. It’s the only thing many people get joy from. Talk is cheap and spreads faster than the Rona, and like the Rona it is used to manipulate us and make us afraid.
You’ve just got to remember that God put you here for a reason and that isn’t impact by what anyone else says or thinks of you. Let them jack their jaws as you walk away into success in your endeavors. Listening to them will only slow you down and that isn’t what either of us wants.
What I want is for you to never allow yourself to let the words (or thoughts or actions) of another person to dictate how you do business. As the inverse of Rocky’s famous statement goes, that’s NOT how winning is done.
If you want to win at whatever it is that you do, put on your headphones and go to work. Forget what their saying. Actually, forget that they’re even talking. There are very few people in the world that I trust enough to let their words change my course, but the thing is that those people are only telling me something’s wrong because they have my best interest in mind, not because they’re jealous or gossipy.
Do you have any people that you can trust enough to accept their advice/opinion knowing they want what’s best for you and your journey? I hope you do. If so, those are the only ones worth listening to. If they don’t want good things for you then there is no valid reason to take their words as anything other than that: words.
In fact, I find it’s best to adopt an attitude of skepticism toward everyone. That has only been compounded by my work in law enforcement. When 90% of the words you hear are lies, you tend to get a bit hardened to what people are saying. Talk is cheap.
People will use their God given ability to speak to manipulate, tear down others, and lie and any other way they can think of to put themselves in a more advantageous position. I don’t begrudge them the desire to position themselves better, but I do resent the widespread lack of honor, particularly among men.
Bottom line: stop listening to those who don’t want what’s best for you. And be skeptical of them. They may want you to succeed on some level, but most will resent you if you become more successful than them.
Keep doing the work and doing what you were put here to do.
Until next time,
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